A Pregnancy Test and Heartbreak | Our Fertility Journey Episode 3
A Pregnancy Test and Heartbreak | Our Fertility Journey Episode 3
Here is episode 3! I think half of you know what's about to happen (since I opened up a little mid last year) and the other half are thinking my happy ending (or beginning I guess?) starts here. If there's one thing this past few years has taught me, both with infertility and the pandemic, is that no matter how much we want and wish and plan and try…some things are just out of our control, or maybe it's just not the right time yet. But we can't give up! So our journey continues!!
Side note: If you're going through IVF try your hardest not to test at home (even though it sucks because you want to just be happy and celebrate at home like most 'normal pregnancies' you see) because you can get a false positive test or false negative test for several reasons. Just be aware of that!
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My clinic: The Women’s Clinic (Dr. Grace Kong and her Nurse Bonnie)
*They’ve been wonderful, I highly recommend them if your looking for gynaecological or fertility services in Hong Kong
Some videos I found helpful:
Infertility TV: …
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It Starts with the Egg:
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Thank you for making this series. I have/had women around me over the last few years go through IVF, and from what they told me, it is exactly as you described—pretty much a full-time job with insane ups and downs, both physically and mentally.
I’m so proud of you for being so incredibly brave and sharing such vulnerable moments in your life. Not only will this series likely be a huge comfort to women who are also struggling with infertility themselves, but I personally think it’s SO important for people in general to really know the reality of IVF how insane of a journey it can be. Major respect to any woman who goes through this ? You’re incredibly strong, and I only wish for the best for you ♥️
Always wanna see you guys happy.
When Tom said “OK! Let’s try again”. ?
You’ve got such a great supportive relationship. You’ve got this.
Please watch until the end ?❤️
I feel you!!! the same happened to me twice now and I am still not pregnant ??
I’m soooo waiting for the new video ???
Taylor And Tom, so much love and respect to you both. I know from watching your videos how much you have gone through. Remember friends, the best things in life don’t always come easy, but in time they will come. Two people like yourselves, who love each other so much, and have so much more love to give, are going to be amazing parents one day. Stay strong and keep the faith. And know you have a lot of people, myself included, praying for your happiness and success.
@Libera I understand that you are trying to be nice and give advice, but telling people with medical conditions like PCOS to meditate and that it might even fix their “fertility” issues is not nice. People with PCOS have hormonal imbalances, and they are not the same as stress hormones, and the condition wont magically dissapear. We have to live with this for the rest of our lives. It is true that eating healthy and stress relief is important and can slightly help, but it isn’ t the sole issue and not the reason her “fertility is destroyed”.
But also congratulations on you succeeding and I’m happy you found something that helped you in your journey :)!
A lot of hugs, this video just made me cry, I can’t imagine how much difficulties you’re going through now,but please be positive! your’re the bravest girl ever!
I’m so proud of you for sharing this, I know it wasn’t easy. These videos are going to help so many people to not feel so alone and give them strength to go through whatever it is they’re struggling with as well❤️
Why did i think you both were sisters until now ?
So incredibly brave!!!! Wishing you all the best!
Thanks Sharla ❤️
@Taylor R I GET PREGNANT ALMOST AT MY 38 YEARS ALL WITH OUT NO HELP I AM POOR I COULD NEVER AFFORD IT ANY MEDICAL HELP. GOD KNOWS WHEN IS THE PERFECT TIME FOR YOUR BABY TO ARRIVE DON NOT RUSH YOU STILL VERY YOUNG I KNOW SOME DAY IT WILL HAPPEN YOU WILL GET PREGNANT JUST GO WITH THE FLOW CONTINUE WITH YOUR LIFE AND ENJOY THE RIDE OF BEING FREE BECAUSE AS SOON YOU GET PREGNANT YOUR TIME AND ARMS WILL BE VERY BUSY PROBABLY YOU WILL NEED A LOT OF HELP . JUST ENJOY THE TIME WITH YOUR HUSBAND UNTIL THE BLESSINGS DAY WILL KNOCK YOUR DOOR.
VERY BRAVE OF YOU TO FILM THIS JOURNEY I AM SO PROUD OF YOU YOU ARE VERY STRONG GIRL .MANY BLESSINGS FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ??
https://youtu.be/7slJqEeKX_M
Sending you so much love. This has been one of the most real, and honest series on YouTube. So proud of you for sharing and showing other women they aren’t alone. ❤️
I’m my parents only child and their 4th attempt at IVF. Before me, my mom had a twin stillbirth and 2 miscarriages. I’ve spoken to both my parents about the entire experience. My dad, although he never had to go through the physical changes or put his body through ample amounts of stress, was emotionally impacted by losing all those babies. He says that after the third attempt, he was not keen on trying again because it would have been too painful to lose another child. However, he left the final decision to my mom given that it was her body that was being heavily manipulated and if she felt physically and emotionally strong enough for another attempt, he would support that decision wholeheartedly. She never had a doubt about that 4th attempt. No matter how depleting and heartbreaking the process had been on her. She is so strong and so resilient and I always remind myself when I get frustrated by her stubbornness, that it’s the sole reason I exist haha. I’m 23 now. Anything is possible. I truly hope for you both to have your miracle baby some day. But most importantly, no matter what your journey is, make sure to take care of yourself along the way and recognize your incredible strength (both physical and mental), especially in the lowest of moments. You are so powerful.
as a woman struggling with infertility, it’s really beautiful to read this from the child’s perspective. so many depressed, emo kids out there, and I get it— but my worst nightmare is finally having a baby, and later they scream at me “I wish I were never born.”
@galaxy_high you lucky buck/Doe!!! ❤️❤️❤️
I’m reading this and I’m in tears! Just so so so so emotional. I’m so happy for you that you have such amazing and wonderful parents.
I truly hope these series have a heartwarming ending Taylor, my heart goes to you and your family!
@missymouseuk1 you were so right, makes me so happy for them!
@missymouseuk1 damn I wish ??
Hope so too!
I’m hoping because these episodes go a year back that they are sharing at a point they are expecting ;).
@missymouseuk1 They are
how every time something heartbreaking happened tom said “we’ll try again” “we’ll get it next time” ?? he has believed in you this whole time and he won’t stop believing in you until the end
Yes, I love that ❤️ the love they share is beautiful
Who else remembers a video of Taylor’s where a fortune teller said she would have a baby in the year of a tiger?
It’s starting next year and I’m hoping the pregnancy will happen after your break!
Sending you all the love, support and a little tiger baby ? ❤️
@G I knoooooow! I’m so happy for Taylor and Tom!!!!
the fortune teller was right ?
she’s due in March!!!! Fortune teller was right
OMG YES!!!
I literally never forgot ?? hopefully she does get pregnant this year but we’ll see ??
Watching the recap from the last episode and the intro just made me feel so grateful that you’re sharing this because of other women who are probably going through similar things but feel alone in their struggles. I can’t even imagine how comforting it would feel to see this and know that they’re not alone. This is such a vulnerable topic and yet you shared everything so honestly. Respect!
I see you everywhere!
I know this was so hard to film & put out there, but thank you so much for sharing your journey! ❤️ You and Tom have such a beautiful relationship! ☺️
“Ok. Let’s try again.” Words spoken by a man who must have been shattered. Tom is a loving, a true partner, husband, a real man and best friend. You two are truly one unit. ????
I think people always forget that not everyone can just “get pregnant” at the drop of a hat. There are people out there who have 8 kids for selfish reasons and can’t take care of any of them, and people that struggle to even have 1 and have the whole world to give. The expectations surrounding fertility are absolutely terrible and I hope everyone can be more compassionate. Thank you for sharing your experience Taylor!!!! ?
@voodooprincess11 It is actually selfish…It’s not good for the kids and not good for the woman. More often than not if a woman has more than 5-6 kids its often due to the selfishness of the husband or her ignorance due to her upbringing. For some its even a business to go around countries that are more rich and gather unemployed benefits and make their kids begg…Ask any social worker. There are good families but its like only 1 in 10 such families the other 9 often have some huge issues and the kids suffer. Even when such families happen in the west the oldest kids in those families often become the mothers and fathers at age 5-6 changing diapers of their now 1-month-old sibling and protecting their 2-year-old sibling from hitting the table instead of studying or playing like their friends because their parents are working and even when 1 is staying at home like the mother, for example, more often than not she still makes the oldest 6-7 or 7-8-year-olds do parenting while she cleans or rest because while she has a 1 or 2 month-year-old she is surprised pregnant again…Kids from such families are vulnerable. Having 5 kids is fine especially 3 that is a great number if you can handle it…But as someone with many siblings I can tell you that even parents with only 2 kids struggle so imagine if you had enough to be a group in a daycare XD
@voodooprincess11 Strongly agree, just because some women can’t have children doesn’t mean that others who can owe them anything. Many people who cannot afford to have children end up with children due to lack of resources like contraception / sex education
@Sarah Bacak not always true my state it’s not free for birth controls also many don’t know about free services because many states don’t have sex ed.
More and more women are struggling with conception all the time, so it’s doubly frustrating when people think it’s just so easy.
My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 2 years. We can’t afford fertility treatments. I understand so deeply the pain, heartbreak, and sadness that comes with the idea of maybe never getting to be a mom. It’s almost unbearable. I really appreciate that you are sharing this journey. I know I’m not alone..but sometimes it feels that way. Thank you!!!!
I am sorry to hear that:-( i also had to undergo fertility treatments. Its so expensive:-(( Luckily I already got pregnant after 3 months, I have a beautiful little daughter now. I am so thankful. We tried for 5 years before. I wish you all the best, don‘t give up!!!
Hey, just wanted to share. I went six yrs of trying without getting pregnant ( I have PCOS). Then I randomly tried the keto diet cause I wanted to lose some weight. 4 months later I became pregnant for the first time ever! After the fact, I found out a lot of women before me have used the keto diet to get pregnant and finally found success after years of trying. I tell anyone struggling to conceive to just try it out because it’s a fairly easy and affordable option. Can’t hurt to give it a shot.
@Sarah Bacak yes, I agree, my life is about me, for me. Living for yourself is a good thing in my opinion because the world is a horrible place….why bring kids into this world….in this world full of suffering….and….with climate change added on…the horrors future generations will witness will be terrible.
Also, I like children, I’m a teacher, I just think they’re not neccessary for a happy life.
I’m so sorry about your experience. I know how devastating it can be and how small it can make you feel. I want to hug you and tell you it’s going to be okay. I wish I could comfort all women struggling with this. It breaks my heart.
Thank you for sharing your journey! I can’t wait for the next part. Rosie melted my heart with those puppy kisses ?❤️❤️
Lol donde lo vine a encontrar Dr haha
after your break! Sending you all the love, support and a little tiger baby ? ❤️
This journey pulled at my heartstrings! I’m so happy that you are so brave and willing to share this journey with us!
You and Tom deserve everything and more ?
So i’m crying and imm not supposed to be crying cuz i just got my lashes done so i hate you. But also, omg love you so much. Love this fertility series. Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us!
@Taylor R I’m literally so excited and nervous to see the next part!!!
? see you and your lashes Wednesday! ❤️
Legit watched this while I was waiting to pay for my lashes, the techs think i’m crazy
I actually think it’s the best thing Taylor has done and the most honest series I’ve seen on YouTube for years. Thanks Taylor for being so raw and honest with us all.
@Taylor R HAHAHAH
“I no longer see a woman who is inadequate, I see a woman who is unstoppable”
Thank you so much for sharing this journey. My cousin is going through IVF right now and I knew it was difficult, but really had no idea until I watched these. You’ve always been inspiring and able to see the positives, and I hope that your light reaches everyone that has or is going through this. Sending you lots of love!
Cari! I was just watching your new video with my morning coffee ☕️
Thanks for the love and good luck to your cousin! ?❤️
You’ve no idea how much you’ve helped me with this series! Currently on my IVF and we have just 1 embryo frozen for transfer next month! Wish me luck! ??
Your editing, storytelling and honesty is so lovely to watch. This topic is so taboo IRL and on social media so thank you so much for sharing this to make others feels less alone and to inform the rest of us what it’s like. You’ve really taught me so much about this reality that so many couples face so thank you! I’ll be eagerly waiting to watch the next chapter in this series ?
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